Truth and Hope

I started coming to Selah last year.  I had been in a very destructive relationship for over 18 years.  It was so bad that twice I needed to leave my home for safety reasons.  After seeking help from both a domestic violence shelter and a counselor, I ended up being referred to Selah.  Selah educated me […]

Emotionally Exhausted

I was emotionally drained and exhausted when I found the Selah group. I remember listening to one of the coordinators discuss the power/control wheel and a light bulb went on in my head. The ‘marriage difficulties’ now looked very different. I began to put to words all the things I was confused about: gaslighting, triangulation, […]

So Thankful

I have been with SELAH for 2 1/2 years now and I cannot express the level of thankfulness when you find a community of other women that help bring clarity to your hurtful marriage and demise of it. To realize that I wasn’t the only one, education that helped reaffirm everything that I was experiencing […]

Power and Control

I began attending Selah shortly after I filed for divorce. At that point, I had been married 11 years. I knew very soon after getting married that something was very, very wrong with my marriage. I just couldn’t fully make sense of what was going on. For far too many years I lived in fear, […]


September 2021 Selah was introduced to me through my counselor at Pine Rest. He actually introduced it to me three times, but I was very much in denial about what was going on in my house. In the Spring of 2020, I fled my house for safety reasons and that is when I knew that […]

Good Enough

As I reflect on my “SELAH journey” I wonder….. where do I begin? Do I begin this reflection as a 20 year old starry-eyed bride? Or the next nearly two decades of exhausting all of my soul, mind, and strength into holding this beautiful institution of God’s design together? Fixing my marriage became my sole purpose for […]

Fearful and Silent

I came to SELAH after going to five different counselors trying to figure out what was happening to me in my marriage.  A friend of mine suggested I attend SELAH.  Without really knowing what to expect, I showed up and talked to one of the directors who shared some resources with me and invited me […]